Managing your expectations

They say lower your expectations so you won't get frustrated and I'm for that, But you simply can't take that at face value.

We need to raise the expectations on the important things and goals in our lives and lower or forget the rest. Without raising your personal bar every once in a while you'll get stagnant and outdated in a fast paced life. Raising the bar does good things to the soul and makes life more interesting.

I would also like to add here that the best place to lower expectations is from others, family included. You cannot control the narrative there as with many things. Expect the best from them but after that deduct a massive 50% or more in terms of real life expectations.

What you need is to find a balancing expectation that fluctuates based on past performance and importance to you. That way you give when giving is respected and valued.

I always ask myself why is it that the ones we love the most tend to take us for granted... Then I wake up to reality.